This framework is intended to be used as a way to identify areas of strength and opportunities for growth within a relationship. The goal is curiosity and understanding, not blame. The conversation itself is the intervention.

To understand what conscious relating is, we first have to look at what it replaces. So often, the harm done in our most intimate relationships isn’t born out of malice. It is born out of fear.

“Is this normal conflict, or is something fundamentally wrong?”